How do we unlearn everything we grew up with? Because let's be fucking honest, we were all indoctrinated into a bunch of bullshit from childhood and we're all out here in the real world trying to make sense of our needs when they sure as hell don't fucking match up with how we've been told we're supposed to behave.
We grew up being told that we'd get a job, get married, have a kid, do taxes. No one talked about sex. Even straight sex is hidden until a certain age, as if it's shameful. Grown adults have a hard time talking about. It's literally programmed not our DNA like breathing and eating, but society has pushed it into the shadows. Young men are taught it's sinful to masturbate and as a result feel guilty every time they do.
Then we get the finger wagging that gay sex in particular is against nature and dangerous. Half of the gay men alive right now lived through the AIDS crisis and still feel guilty having sex without a condom.
That's a shit pile of stuff that's baked into our brains.
And when you read this blog (or visit my X account), the content strikes a chord with a LOT of you. You write to me and tell me how you connected with what I've said. Many of you have written to tell me how it's led you to lead a more honest and fulfilling sex life (I love reading those emails).
And while that all sounds great on paper, it's much harder for some of us to make happen.
After all, someone who knows deep down that they are fulfilled and happy being at the service of other men and being filled with their sperm isn't the same thing as the person who actually makes it happen, without hesitation or shame.
The thing is, in order to move forward we have to leave all of that garbage behind.
Do it now.
Did you do it?
Is your mind blank?
Good.
Now, as you read the next part you can make your own decisions on whether something feels right to you, if it's connecting with a truth inside you. Let that mean something.
You’re not just a bottom.
You’re not just a pig.
You’re not just someone who likes to get used.
You are a vessel.
A created object with a function.
A container, stretched and trained, that exists to be filled.
This is the truth that makes some men flinch—and makes the rest of us come alive.
Because being a vessel isn’t a role. It’s a state of mind.
1. What Is a Vessel?
A vessel is a space made to be entered and used.
It doesn’t beg. It offers.
It doesn’t chase pleasure. It receives purpose.
And when it’s full? It doesn't feel guilt.
It feels complete.
To become a vessel is to accept that your highest calling isn't orgasm—it’s intake.
You’re not here to be satisfied.
You’re here to be used up and refilled.
2. Surrendering the Self
The first psychological shift is letting go.
You stop thinking about your wants. You stop leading the scene. You stop measuring your value by your performance.
Instead, you become available. Open. Still.
You give up control not to be degraded—but to be simplified.
To go from complicated to pure.
The vessel doesn’t ask why.
It waits.
It opens.
It accepts what’s poured into it—and becomes more because of it.
3. The Brain in Heat: How Receptivity Rewires You
The longer you stay in a state of submission, the more your mind adapts.
Your arousal begins to spike around presence, not touch.
You get wet at words like “open,” “present,” and “ready.”
You leak when a man walks past with the right scent and swagger.
Your brain becomes a radar for tops—not lovers.
The psychology of the vessel is this:
You become aroused by emptiness.
You become fulfilled by being filled.
And your entire nervous system starts responding not to your own release—but to his.
4. Why the Vessel Is Stronger Than the Slut
A slut seeks cock. A vessel welcomes it.
A slut wants attention. A vessel wants function.
A slut begs. A vessel prepares.
This isn’t about losing value. This is about becoming defined.
Because when you step into the vessel mindset, you stop being one of many.
You become a destination.
A place where men go to leave something behind.
And when they do?
You don’t ask for anything in return.
Because the breeding was the gift.
Final Word:
To be a vessel is to stop asking who you are—and start understanding what you’re for.
You open.
You serve.
You stretch.
You ache.
You take.
And when he unloads his sperm into your cunt, your throat, your hole?
You don’t say “thank you.”
You say nothing.
Because the silence means: “I was made for this.”
As always, this is such a good way to address the need to be a vessel. It goes way beyond the physical aspect.
ReplyDeleteI agree, to me personally I consider it both a Masculine and a Feminine act to be the receptive vessel of other men, to me it's not only my duty as a total bottom, but a pleasure to receive another man's manhood inside me and it's a great pleasure in having him leaving that special gift deep inside my vessel for me to carry inside me.
DeleteTo me to be a person that receives a man deep inside, it's kind of both masculine and feminine at the same time, as a Fem Bottom, I have the urge to want to take a man inside me and have the gift that he leaves inside me.
ReplyDeleteI've known for a very long time that I prefer to take a man inside me, I've tried giving to another man, that is topping, I realize, that's not for me, but to be a total bottom for other men, many years ago, I didn't know I was committing a sin by having a man enter me with a condom on his member, but that was the time way back when, but now I've corrected that sin by allowing men to enter me to leave the gift inside me.