The Psychology of Being a Vessel (For Cock and Sperm)

How do we unlearn everything we grew up with? Because let's be fucking honest, we were all indoctrinated into a bunch of bullshit from childhood and we're all out here in the real world trying to make sense of our needs when they sure as hell don't fucking match up with how we've been told we're supposed to behave.

We grew up being told that we'd get a job, get married, have a kid, do taxes. No one talked about sex. Even straight sex is hidden until a certain age, as if it's shameful. Grown adults have a hard time talking about. It's literally programmed not our DNA like breathing and eating, but society has pushed it into the shadows. Young men are taught it's sinful to masturbate and as a result feel guilty every time they do.

Then we get the finger wagging that gay sex in particular is against nature and dangerous. Half of the gay men alive right now lived through the AIDS crisis and still feel guilty having sex without a condom.

That's a shit pile of stuff that's baked into our brains.

And when you read this blog (or visit my X account), the content strikes a chord with a LOT of you. You write to me and tell me how you connected with what I've said. Many of you have written to tell me how it's led you to lead a more honest and fulfilling sex life (I love reading those emails).

And while that all sounds great on paper, it's much harder for some of us to make happen. 

After all, someone who knows deep down that they are fulfilled and happy being at the service of other men and being filled with their sperm isn't the same thing as the person who actually makes it happen, without hesitation or shame.

The thing is, in order to move forward we have to leave all of that garbage behind.

Do it now.

Did you do it?

Is your mind blank?

Good.

Now, as you read the next part you can make your own decisions on whether something feels right to you, if it's connecting with a truth inside you. Let that mean something. 

You’re not just a bottom.

You’re not just a pig.
You’re not just someone who likes to get used.

You are a vessel.
A created object with a function.
A container, stretched and trained, that exists to be filled.

This is the truth that makes some men flinch—and makes the rest of us come alive.

Because being a vessel isn’t a role. It’s a state of mind.




1. What Is a Vessel?

A vessel is a space made to be entered and used.
It doesn’t beg. It offers.
It doesn’t chase pleasure. It receives purpose.

And when it’s full? It doesn't feel guilt.
It feels complete.

To become a vessel is to accept that your highest calling isn't orgasm—it’s intake.
You’re not here to be satisfied.
You’re here to be used up and refilled.


2. Surrendering the Self

The first psychological shift is letting go.

You stop thinking about your wants. You stop leading the scene. You stop measuring your value by your performance.

Instead, you become available. Open. Still.

You give up control not to be degraded—but to be simplified.
To go from complicated to pure.

The vessel doesn’t ask why.
It waits.
It opens.
It accepts what’s poured into it—and becomes more because of it.


3. The Brain in Heat: How Receptivity Rewires You

The longer you stay in a state of submission, the more your mind adapts.

  • Your arousal begins to spike around presence, not touch.

  • You get wet at words like “open,” “present,” and “ready.”

  • You leak when a man walks past with the right scent and swagger.

  • Your brain becomes a radar for tops—not lovers.

The psychology of the vessel is this:

You become aroused by emptiness.
You become fulfilled by being filled.
And your entire nervous system starts responding not to your own release—but to his.


4. Why the Vessel Is Stronger Than the Slut

A slut seeks cock. A vessel welcomes it.

A slut wants attention. A vessel wants function.

A slut begs. A vessel prepares.

This isn’t about losing value. This is about becoming defined.

Because when you step into the vessel mindset, you stop being one of many.
You become a destination.
A place where men go to leave something behind.

And when they do?

You don’t ask for anything in return.
Because the breeding was the gift.


Final Word:

To be a vessel is to stop asking who you are—and start understanding what you’re for.

  • You open.

  • You serve.

  • You stretch.

  • You ache.

  • You take.

And when he unloads his sperm into your cunt, your throat, your hole?

You don’t say “thank you.”
You say nothing.
Because the silence means: “I was made for this.”

KEEPING YOURSELF IN HEAT AND READY FOR SEED

 

Here's the thing, pig.
You don't mind if I call you pig, do you?
It's a term of endearment. A powerful word. So many men out there would like to be cumdumps and sex pigs but they don't for one reason or another. They will fantasize their whole life about being a total slut and either die never having explored that very important side of themselves or find themselves too old to truly take advantage of what's out there.

Our day to day life is so sterile and free of anything remotely sexual that it's easy for us to regress into a lie after we cum. In fact it's easy to forget that sex exists at all as we go about our daily lives. That is not natural, but it's the world we live in. 

Your job, as a man with heightened awareness over your sexuality, is to make sure you're constantly at a decent level of horniness. Since society isn't there to keep it consistent, you have to be pro-active and strategic incorporating  your sexuality into everything else that's important in your life.

Because all those other parts are important too. I never said they weren't. But it's time for a primal part of you to take its place in your life.

How do you go about keeping yourself "in heat?"

Great question. Here are my thoughts:


Cage and Denial: Keeping the Heat Alive

1. Heightened Arousal:

When you’re caged, your cock is physically constrained, which prevents you from reaching that release. This constant state of frustration keeps your body in a heightened state of arousal. The tension between what your body craves (orgasm) and what it’s being denied (release) keeps you in a constant state of heat. Your desire becomes sharper, and everything you experience, from the smallest touch to the most primal moment of being bred, becomes more intense.

2. Amplified Need:

By keeping yourself caged, you essentially train your body to crave that release more desperately. You build up that urge over time, and the longer you stay in the cage, the stronger that feeling becomes. The denial forces your body to focus on that one thing it wants most: to be filled. The heat you feel isn’t just mental; it’s physical too, because your body’s primal instincts are in overdrive.

3. Stoking the Primal Urge:

Your mind knows it’s meant to be filled with sperm. This doesn’t just satisfy a biological need; it satisfies a deeper, instinctual craving. The cage heightens that longing, and you feel it more as your body realizes that it won’t release on its own. You need another man’s sperm to feel complete. The more time you spend caged, the more you’ll feel like your purpose is to be used for breeding, and that sense of needing to serve can keep you in a perpetual state of sexual arousal.

4. Psychological Fuel:

Mentally, the cage works like a constant reminder of your role. Every time you touch it or feel the pressure, it reinforces the idea that you are not meant to release unless it’s on someone else’s terms. This helps you stay in heat, because the focus is never on satisfying yourself — it’s always about serving and taking whatever sperm you can get. Every interaction, every exchange with a potential partner, is an opportunity to fulfill your purpose. This sense of purpose drives your desire even higher.


Cage, Heat, and the Desire to Be Filled

1. The Need to Be Bred:

Your body knows what it needs — to be bred. Every time you think about the cage, you are reminded of that craving. But you can’t act on it yourself. It’s not your choice anymore. The more you edge, the longer you go without releasing, the more intense your craving for sperm becomes. Every encounter with a top only fuels the hunger, but you’re still stuck in that state of heat, waiting for someone to come along and give you what you crave most: to be filled and marked as the cumdump you were made to be.

2. Increased Sensitivity:

The cage also makes your body more sensitive. You might notice that even the slightest touch, the thought of being bred, or the images of another man cumming inside you drive you wild. You feel more alive, more tuned in to the act of breeding. This increased sensitivity heightens everything. Your body is begging for release, but it’s not satisfied until someone else provides it for you.


The Power of Prolonged Heat


By keeping yourself caged, you’re locking yourself into that constant state of arousal and anticipation. It becomes almost like an addiction — you crave the release, but not in the usual way. You crave the release that comes with being filled, with sperm flooding you, with someone else marking you.


Conclusion:


Staying caged ensures that you’re in a perpetual state of heat, your body and mind constantly craving what you need most: sperm. The cage amplifies that primal desire, and the longer you stay caged, the more intense the urge to be bredbecomes. It’s not just about physical release; it’s about purpose. The more you wait, the more desperate and receptiveyou’ll be when the right man comes along to breed you. The release becomes something more powerful than just orgasm — it’s about fulfillment, submission, and the act of being used as the vessel you were meant to be.

BALLS

 There’s something undeniably primal and intoxicating about a man’s balls — their scent, their weight, the way they swing beneath him. For a cumdump, it’s not just about what comes out of them; it’s about everything they represent — power, control, and an overwhelming desire to be used. The act of being bred by a man, with his balls deep inside you, tapping into that primal need for domination, is something that can drive a cumdump wild.


Let’s explore why a man’s balls are so intensely mesmerizing, and why a cumdump feels an almost instinctual need to worship them, surrender to them, and ultimately be filled by what they offer.




1. The Symbol of Power: Why Balls Hold Such Authority


A man’s balls are more than just sperm containers; they are the epitome of his masculinity and dominance. When a cumdump focuses on a man’s balls, it’s a reminder that he is not just receiving sperm, he is receiving his power — the very essence of what makes him a breeder, a dominant force.


The weight of the balls, their heaviness, represents strength and control. For a cumdump, being in their presence, feeling them press against you, knowing what’s contained inside, taps into an incredibly primal part of your mind. They symbolize the power the man holds over you — not just in terms of breeding, but in terms of dominance, control, and the ability to mark you with their essence.


A man’s balls are a physical representation of what they can do to you — how deeply they can claim you. The urge to worship them, to feel them, to taste them — all of this reflects the deep respect a cumdump feels for the dominance and control these balls represent.


2. The Sensory Overload — How Their Scent, Taste, and Weight Drive You Insane


There’s a deep, intoxicating sensation that comes from being near a man’s balls. Whether you’re smelling the musk that emanates from them, tasting their saltiness after they’ve been used, or feeling the weight of them as they move, every aspect of their presence drives a cumdump wild.

 The Scent: The scent of a man’s balls is primal, a combination of sweatmusk, and dominance. For a cumdump, this scent becomes a reminder of the power he holds, of the claim he has on you. It’s intoxicating, and it drives you into a deep state of submission.

 The Weight: There’s something deeply satisfying about feeling the weight of a man’s balls against you. It’s like they’re physically marking you, grounding you into your role as the vessel meant to be used. The heaviness of them, the sensation of them resting against your body, creates a constant reminder of who’s in control.

 The Taste: Tasting a man’s balls after he’s used you is an act of complete worship. The saltiness, the sweat, the essencethat lingers — it’s a reminder of his power and your place in that moment. For a cumdump, consuming this essence is a way of reaffirming your submission and your gratitude for his dominance.


3. The Unstoppable Desire — Why Balls Drive a Cumdump to Full Surrender


What makes a man’s balls so intensely erotic is the totality of the experience. It’s not just about their sight or feel — it’s about what they represent. The act of being bred with those balls, the connection that’s created between you and the man, is a deeply primal experience that fulfills the deepest desires of a cumdump.


A cumdump becomes obsessed with a man’s balls because they represent the ultimate power, the ultimate dominance — and ultimately, the pleasure of being completely used. The desire to be filled by them, to take in everything they offer, is an act of surrender that is so satisfying, it pushes you deeper into your purpose.


In the presence of a man’s balls, you feel like nothing else matters but the act of serving and submitting. And the more you give, the more you take, the more insatiable you become.


Conclusion:


A man’s balls are the ultimate symbol of his power, his dominance, and the essence that he can give you. For a cumdump, worshiping them, feeling them, and taking what they offer brings the act of submission to its deepest, most satisfying place. It’s about being markedclaimed, and used in the most primal way. The more you embrace their presence, the deeper your connection to the act of being bred becomes.

ASS TO MOUTH

 Do you suck a cock after it's been fucking you?

I know some of you high class cumdumps are shaking your head, "No fucking way!"

Well, I suggest you rethink things, because sucking off a cock that was just fucking you can be incredibly hot ... for quite a few reasons.

Us gay dude's love sucking dick and having our dick sucked. Who the fuck wouldn't like having an enthusiastic cocksucker working over their erection with their mouth and tongue. And it just so happens gay guy's are the fucking best at it, not only because we know what we're doing, but cuz we're fucking HUNGRY for that cock. The level enthusiasm we show in sucking a guy off is often directly proportional to how horny he gets and how intense the session gets. There's just something that happens when a top sees a dude turn into a submissive cock sucking whore, on his knees, moaning and gagging with a mouth (or throat) full of his prick. It's inspiring. And fucking hot.



As bottom's we also love it when a top eats our ass before sex. Fuck, there's nothing like a top who hungrily tongues and licks your hole before sex. It usually transforms any bottom from horny to put-that-cock-in-me now-and-fuck-me-like-an-animal mode. 

All that licking, slurping and sucking is animalistic, heightens the hell out of the fuck, and just feels incredibly good.

Plus, as a true breeding bottom you cleaned your hole sufficiently well for the anticipation of a good pounding. Clean enough for that handsome stud to stick that beautiful, powerful baby maker into? The most powerful and sensitive part of his body. He chose you to fuck? You to unlock his animal side and mate with.

Fuck, last night I was taking a pounding and the words escaped my mouth, "Fuck, I want to suck your cock so bad." We were mid-fuck and I felt him instantly get even harder inside my hole as he continued pounding me. Moments later he pulled out and I spun around and, without hesitation, sucked that cock with intensity I didn't know I have. The heat from it, from fucking, the taste and smell of our breeding session - a combination of musk, sweat, pre-cum, spit and lube...and just the fucking hormonal essence radiating from that engorged cock turned me fucking feral. I couldn't get enough of it. 

And the top was fucking raging hard watching me do it. So clear how much of a whore I was for him, how in fucking love I was with his prick.

We went back to fucking, alternating between fucking and me sucking his cock a few more times.

Eventually, he (quite loudly) pumped his sperm inside my hole and once his balls were drained, I immediately got face to face with that fucker. That prick that had just served its purpose in my hole. That had just bred me and knocked me up. The power of that fucking thing. Seeing it red and throbbing, glistening from our baby making. Fuck, the taste of it...I just couldn't get enough of it. Knowing my ass was full of his sperm, sperm from this beautiful cock in my mouth. 

It's incredible and should be a part of any breeding session (if the bottom has cleaned out properly).

Oral Worship

 Oral worship is one of the most primalintimate, and sensual acts between men. For the submissive, it’s an opportunity to offer up their body, to serve in a way that connects both the physical and psychological in a deeply fulfilling way. For the dominant, it’s an act that symbolizes ownership, the ability to control and guide the submissive, knowing that their pleasure is tied directly to the submissive’s service.


Oral worship, especially during a breeding session, brings an element of devotion and gratitude that enhances the intensity of the entire experience. It’s about surrendering to the act, and in turn, feeling that power from the other man.




1. The Submissive’s Perspective: The Joy of Giving and Receiving Through Worship


For the submissive, oral worship is the ultimate expression of surrender. It’s about offering your mouth, your lips, and your body to the dominant man — allowing him to use you in the most intimate way possible. But this act goes beyond simply giving head; it’s about devotion to his cock, to the very essence that he holds within him.

 Surrender Through Submission: When you kneel before a man and take his cock in your mouth, it’s more than just an act of oral sex. It’s about submission. You are putting yourself in a vulnerable position, giving him control over your pleasure, allowing him to use your mouth for his satisfaction. It’s a reminder of your purpose — to serve and please him completely.

 The Intimacy of Oral Worship: As you take his cock into your mouth, the intimacy of the moment heightens the connection between the two of you. It’s not just about satisfying him — it’s about feeling the power in your submission, the connection to his cock, and the pleasure that comes from knowing you’re serving him in the most personal way. It’s about honoring him, about acknowledging his power and letting that power take over your senses.

 The Eroticism of the Act: The act of oral worship is inherently erotic because it’s a blend of intimacy and dominance. The submissive takes in everything — the taste of his cock, the feel of it in their mouth, and the sensation of being overwhelmed by the act itself. It’s about completing your role, knowing that you’re dedicated to his pleasure and that everything you do enhances the intensity of the experience.


2. The Dominant’s Perspective: The Power of Control Through Oral Worship


For the dominant, receiving oral worship is an act of complete control and assertion. It’s about using the submissive to fulfill your desires, about making them serve you in the most intimate way. The pleasure that comes from the submissive worshiping your cock is a reminder of the power you hold over them. You are in charge, guiding the act, and enjoying every inch of their devotion.

 Control Through Submission: When you watch your submissive kneel before you, taking your cock in their mouth, you feel the dominance wash over you. Their willingness to serve, to please, is a direct reflection of the power you hold over them. You dictate the pace, the intensity, and the satisfaction. The submissive’s mouth is your tool, their body is your vessel — all in service to your pleasure.

 Heightened Sensory Pleasure: The act of receiving oral worship brings an entirely different level of pleasure to the experience. It’s a slowdeliberate process that allows the dominant to savor the sensation of their cock being worshiped. It’s not just the physical act of sucking; it’s about feeling their devotion, their gratitude, and their desire to make you feel pleasure. Each movement of their mouth, each swirl of their tongue, increases the intensity of the dominant’s arousal.

 The Power of Visual Control: Watching your submissive suck your cock is a visual manifestation of your ownership. Seeing them give themselves completely to you — using their lips, their mouth, their body — is a reminder of the power you have to control their pleasure. It’s a visual that fuels the dominant’s own arousal, building the desire and the need to fill the submissive’s hole with your sperm, reinforcing your dominance and control.


3. Oral Worship as the Gateway to Breeding — The Transition from Service to Submission


Oral worship can serve as the perfect prelude to the full act of breeding. It’s not just about warming up — it’s about establishing a deep connection, building tension, and intensifying the sense of surrender and submission before the dominant finally fills the submissive.

 Building the Connection: The act of worship is an opportunity for the dominant to connect with the submissive. It’s about setting the tone, creating a psychological bond that deepens the experience. As the submissive’s mouth moves over your cock, each stroke brings you closer to the moment of release, but it also solidifies their role as the vessel. The transition from oral worship to full breeding is one of the most intense moments in the dynamic.

 Mental and Physical Preparation: The act of being worshiped orally is a way to prepare both the mind and the bodyfor the intensity of breeding. It’s a slow buildup, a tease that heightens the anticipation. For the submissive, knowing that the dominant is pleasuring them, knowing that their submission is valued, makes them even more ready to be filled, to take in the dominant’s sperm completely.


4. The Beauty of Oral Worship — From Both Sides


Oral worship is one of the most sensual acts in the dynamic between dominant and submissive. It’s not just about the physical act of sucking cock; it’s about the mental and emotional connection it creates. For the submissive, it’s a chance to prove devotion, to be used in the most intimate way. For the dominant, it’s a chance to take control, to guide the submissive into pleasure while simultaneously asserting your power.

 For the Submissive: The act of worship becomes a ritual of submission, a way of honoring the dominant’s pleasurewhile also being pleasured by the act itself. Every movement, every touch, every taste deepens their satisfaction.

 For the Dominant: The visual and physical pleasure of receiving oral worship is about asserting control, feeling the submissive’s mouth as their tool, and ultimately claiming them as your own.

There’s something primal and intoxicating about having a man’s baby maker in your mouth. It’s not just about the taste or the physical sensation; it’s about the power that flows through you as you wrap your lips around him. It’s the way your body reacts instinctively to the presence of his cock — the heat, the hunger, the desire to take him whole. His baby maker, the most vulnerable yet powerful part of him, becomes your focus, the object of your devotion and submission.


The smell, the taste, the musky aroma of his day’s work — all these sensations combine into a rich experience that no one else can truly understand, but as a gay man, you know exactly how to connect with it, to take it all in. The act of oral worship isn’t just an offering; it’s the primal need to be used and to taste what makes a man powerful — his essence, his sperm, and the control he exerts over you.


1. The Power Between Your Lips


There’s something intensely powerful about having a man’s baby maker in your mouth. It’s not just the sensation of sucking; it’s the control that flows through you as you use your lips, your tongue, and your mouth to bring him pleasure. Every movement of your mouth, every swirl of your tongue, brings you closer to the pleasure that only he can give you. It’s as if your mouth becomes an instrument of his power — each stroke, each lick, brings you deeper into his control.


When you take his cock into your mouth, it’s like everything in your body is aligned with your purpose. Your lips are the tool that will bring him to orgasm, and you are surrendering to his dominance. The intensity of having him in your mouth is about more than just the physical act — it’s the way you are linked to him, the way his power flows through you and drives you to take more, to serve him completely. Every moment, you’re reminded of your place — his cock in your mouth, his power in your hands.


2. The Taste — A Delicious Power


The taste of a man’s cock is a combination of so many things. It’s not just the saltiness or the bitterness of his pre-cum, it’s the depth of the flavor that comes from him being used, from his body being exposed to you. Whether he’s been at work, fresh from the gym, or after a day of sweating, you taste the musk that surrounds him. The smell of his day, his hunger, and the natural odor that comes from his balls and cock.


This taste — it’s not something a woman would understand, nor someone who isn’t attuned to what makes a man’s sperm and cock such a powerful thing. The saltiness, the slight tang of sweat, pre-cum, or even the lingering piss, all combine to give you an experience that can’t be duplicated. Each taste is rich, full, and it fuels your hunger, driving you to want more — to take him deeper into your mouth, to feel him release everything inside you.


That taste drives you wild because it’s the very essence of his masculinity. It makes you crave it more. It’s the reason you kneel, why you submit to him. No one can make you feel this way. Only a man’s cock can bring you the pleasure of knowing exactly what you want, what you need, and what you were meant to do.


3. The Smell — Setting a Bottom into Heat


The smell of a man’s cock is one of the most primal and intoxicating things a cumdump can experience. It’s more than just the odor — it’s the musk, the scent of his sweat, his pre-cum, the residue of his piss that lingers after he’s been using you. That scent sets you into heat, makes your body ache for more, and reminds you of your purpose.


The smell of his balls, that heady aroma that comes from his cock after a long day, fills your senses and drives you to submit. You can smell everything that’s been built up inside him — his desire, his power, his need to use you. The more you breathe it in, the more your body responds to the primal desire of wanting to be filled by him, to taste everything he’s offering.


And it’s powerful, isn’t it? That musk is a part of you now. It’s in your lungs, it’s in your mind, and it drives you further into the submission you crave. The scent of a man’s cock doesn’t just arouse you; it primes your body for what’s to come — the breeding, the domination, and the release that you were made for.


4. The Hunger — What Makes the Bottom Truly Surrender


The desire to worship and suck cock is rooted in a deep hunger — a hunger that can’t be filled by anything but the cockof another man. This hunger isn’t just for pleasure; it’s for purpose. It’s for the experience of being used, of knowing that the man in front of you is about to claim you, to fill you with his seed, to leave his mark inside you.


You want to please him. You want to serve him. Every swallow, every lick, every suck feeds that hunger. It’s a hunger that only a top’s cock can satisfy, and you know, deep inside, that this is exactly what you were made for.


This hunger is what the top desires to see in you. He wants to see that insatiable desire, the way you devour him, and the power you give him through your submission. He wants you to crave him, to need him — to feel that desperation in your mouth as you take him deeper, all the while knowing that he’s in control of the situation.


Conclusion: The Irresistible Power of Oral Worship


There’s nothing quite like having a man’s baby maker in your mouth. The taste, the smell, and the power of the act are what make it so deeply erotic. For the submissive, it’s a moment of complete surrender, where the act of worshiping a man’s cock becomes a primal, almost sacred experience. For the dominant, it’s a display of control, where the submissive gives themselves up completely, all while pleasing and serving him.


Oral worship isn’t just about the act — it’s about connectionsubmission, and the pleasure that comes from being claimed and used. It’s an act that can intensify the experience, create a deeper bond, and ultimately, bring you both closer to the primal act of breeding.

Oral worship is a powerful and sensual act that deepens the connection between the dominant and submissive. It’s a psychological and physical exchange that sets the stage for the ultimate act of breeding. For the submissive, it’s about surrender, devotion, and the intense pleasure of being used for another’s satisfaction. For the dominant, it’s a display of control, of seeing the submissive pleasure in their submission and feeling the power that comes with guiding them toward the final act of breeding.


The beauty of oral worship lies in the intimacy and surrender it fosters, and the way it leads naturally into the final, most powerful moment: the breeding.

ACCEPTING THAT YOUR SEXUAL ORGAN IS YOUR ASSHOLE

 

Listen, a lot of tops read this blog. I tend to speak to the bottoms out there (write what you know, right?) but I often post stuff for my stallions out there. I love that they know what they want. They read this blog and they get turned on by understanding what's really going on with bareback breeding. Many of them write to me and tell me how a particular post has inspired them to go out and fuck and they tell me how before stumbling upon my content they didn't really understand what bottoms got out of fucking.



And no, these aren't all just tops who never tried bottoming. For some dudes, bottoming just isn't for them and THANK GOD. The world needs more tops anyway. I actually think it goes far further though. While some men may be vers (and let's not lie to ourselves - even if you're a bottom, when your cock orgasms, it feels good, and it doesn't feel unpleasant when that happens inside another dude's asshole). But just because something undeniably feels good, doesn't mean that the act of doing it taps into everything else that makes up our sexuality. Because, for many men, though a prostate massage undeniably feels good, they just don't get turned on or deeply passionate about that act happening on them.

As men, particularly gay men who receive no sexual education in our youth, our tendency is to play with our dicks and cum. We aren't really taught to explore our holes, massage our prostates. So we actually come around to learning about our sexuality in complex and poorly understood ways.

Too bad, because if we did, a whole lot of us would have understood at a much younger age that our overriding pleasure came from having our asshole filled, our prostate massaged, and our overall sexual satisfaction greater when being used by a top instead of playing with our own cocks.

Let me speak for myself; the sexual satisfaction I get from being on my knees and making a man's cock leak pre-cum as I work him over with my mouth is far more satisfying than having my own dick sucked. Seeing a man lose his sense of self and unlock his animalistic desires because of my submission and passion turns me on more profoundly than anything else. Then from a physical perspective, every part of fucking and breeding unlocks MY animal side. And it feels good to be in touch with that. From the tip of a bare cock rubbing against my hole, to the feeling of that cock stretching me out, and the eventual mind-numbing pleasure of having another man orgasm and shoot his sperm inside you - to me all of that is more sexually satisfying than blowing my own load. I'm happy I've learned that about myself.f

Still many bottoms only touch the surface of understanding what they really like and how deep their satisfaction can run. It's more than just pleasurable. It's something that is hard wired into many of us, physiologically and psychologically. Just as some people are born gay and thinking of men gets them hard without even being able to articulate it, many gay men are meant to be bottoms. If you ask me on a larger scale, I believe this is by design. 

For many of you, you've told me that you have found your own orgasms unsatisfying in a way that the pleasure of having a cock sliding in and out of your ass just can't compare to. In fact, you find yourself playing with your cock less and less while looking at porn but instead fingering your hole and playing with toys. For a great many of you, this truth only unlocked within yourself after moths of chastity or edging. While the realization came later on, the fact that you already suspected who you were and set out to learn more is hopefully something you can tackle early on in your sex life to have more fun.

I absolutely fucking encourage you to keep up with learning about what you like, and know that will evolve as you become more comfortable with yourself.

You're tapping into a very important part of who you are.

And you're understanding that for some men, their cock is a secondary sexual organ to their assholes and that the pleasure you get from your hole is far superior to anything your own cock can provide.

Explore that more. Accept it.

The Gay Man's Guide To Monogamy

 



Since the day you learned about sex, they've been lying to you.

They told you love and loyalty mean keeping your sexual desires to yourself.
That craving someone new means something's wrong with your relationship.
That your body is a beast to tame—not a truth to honor.

This book says: you were never meant to be monogamous.

With hard science, filthy honesty, and evolutionary clarity, The Gay Man's Book of Monogamy rips the mask off modern love and reveals the primal drive under the surface.
You'll learn why sperm wants to roam. Why testosterone doesn't stop with "I do." Why gay men—freed from the performance of straight respectability—have a rare chance to live sexually honest lives.

Whether you're single, partnered, cheating, or aching to open the cage, this book will show you:

  • Why male desire is built for multiplicity, not monogamy
  • What suppressing that instinct does to the body and mind
  • How to build relationships that honor your biology—not fight it
  • And why love and freedom can co-exist—when you stop lying to yourself

This isn't about being reckless. It's about being real.
Because freedom isn't infidelity.
It's truth.





The Ideal Length Of Fucking

Have you ever wondered what the ideal length for your sexual sessions to take should be?

The answer is... all over the place.

And by that I mean. Obviously the idea of a long fuck with stretched out holes and cocks pumping very volumous loads sounds ideal but, you know what? 

Sometimes there's no time for that. Sometimes there's been so much edging beforehand that it doesn't take much to set loads off. And that's fucking fine too. Sometimes there's only a brief window for the mating session. Maybe someone has to get back to work. Maybe their husband will be home shortly.

If you ask me, I'd take a short fuck versus no fuck.

There is no ideal amount of time. Longer is better, but quick is fucking hot too. 

Just thinking that two dudes can go behind closed doors, and if they were worked up beforehand, they only need seconds to pump each other full of cum.

And now that I've given you my diplomatic answer, let me just be frank. 

Long.


The Impregnation Fantasy

 Even without the possibility of pregnancy, the impregnation fantasy is about being used completely — about a man taking control and claiming you in a way that feels as if he were making a baby. There’s a deep sense of satisfaction in knowing that you’ve been used in that way, that his sperm is deep inside you, marking you in a powerfulprimal way.

THE BREEDING GENERATION -

Have you noticed something? Nobody wears a fucking condom anymore. Nobody. 

Hooking up on a first date? Sharing a bottle of wine with your ex? Following that hot dude into the last bathroom stall? All those guys at the club taking a guy or two back to their place? Inviting a stranger from Grindr over? Your find a bunch of guys fooling around in the woods?

It's almost certain that these days the one thing no one wears anymore is a condom.

I mean, at this very moment the amount of guys who have their toes clenched and eyes rolled back as they breed a dude's hole is in the tens of thousands. At this very moment. Now. Right now. While you're reading this.

So stop feeling like you're doing something wrong by doing what is absolutely natural. Sharing our DNA is instinctive and primal. Church and society seem to like to put these artificial standards on men.

It barely works even on straight guys.

Do you think straight dudes are wrapping up? 

Fuck, no. 


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