Into? That’s always where the chat leads, right And I’ve had to think about it - what I really want. Not just the basic words that describe actions but not desires, that completely skip over the mindframes and needs of either man. That's why so many hook-ups feel empty and incomplete. So I sat down and put some serious fucking thought into what my "into?" would really be. So the next time he asks I’ll just send him a link to this: I’ve been getting brutally honest with myself about what I actually need when the heat hits. It’s not conversation. It’s not chemistry in the polite sense. It’s not the version of me that exists out in the world - the one who makes small talk, who has a life, who shows up as a person. That guy has to stay outside the door. Because the second he’s allowed in, he ruins everything. He brings the social performance. The nerves. The need to be liked. And suddenly nothing is sexy anymore. The mood is ruined. The brain stays on. And I’m no...
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