Listen, a lot of tops read this blog. I tend to speak to the bottoms out there (write what you know, right?) but I often post stuff for my stallions out there. I love that they know what they want. They read this blog and they get turned on by understanding what's really going on with bareback breeding. Many of them write to me and tell me how a particular post has inspired them to go out and fuck and they tell me how before stumbling upon my content they didn't really understand what bottoms got out of fucking.
And no, these aren't all just tops who never tried bottoming. For some dudes, bottoming just isn't for them and THANK GOD. The world needs more tops anyway. I actually think it goes far further though. While some men may be vers (and let's not lie to ourselves - even if you're a bottom, when your cock orgasms, it feels good, and it doesn't feel unpleasant when that happens inside another dude's asshole). But just because something undeniably feels good, doesn't mean that the act of doing it taps into everything else that makes up our sexuality. Because, for many men, though a prostate massage undeniably feels good, they just don't get turned on or deeply passionate about that act happening on them.
As men, particularly gay men who receive no sexual education in our youth, our tendency is to play with our dicks and cum. We aren't really taught to explore our holes, massage our prostates. So we actually come around to learning about our sexuality in complex and poorly understood ways.
Too bad, because if we did, a whole lot of us would have understood at a much younger age that our overriding pleasure came from having our asshole filled, our prostate massaged, and our overall sexual satisfaction greater when being used by a top instead of playing with our own cocks.
Let me speak for myself; the sexual satisfaction I get from being on my knees and making a man's cock leak pre-cum as I work him over with my mouth is far more satisfying than having my own dick sucked. Seeing a man lose his sense of self and unlock his animalistic desires because of my submission and passion turns me on more profoundly than anything else. Then from a physical perspective, every part of fucking and breeding unlocks MY animal side. And it feels good to be in touch with that. From the tip of a bare cock rubbing against my hole, to the feeling of that cock stretching me out, and the eventual mind-numbing pleasure of having another man orgasm and shoot his sperm inside you - to me all of that is more sexually satisfying than blowing my own load. I'm happy I've learned that about myself.f
Still many bottoms only touch the surface of understanding what they really like and how deep their satisfaction can run. It's more than just pleasurable. It's something that is hard wired into many of us, physiologically and psychologically. Just as some people are born gay and thinking of men gets them hard without even being able to articulate it, many gay men are meant to be bottoms. If you ask me on a larger scale, I believe this is by design.
For many of you, you've told me that you have found your own orgasms unsatisfying in a way that the pleasure of having a cock sliding in and out of your ass just can't compare to. In fact, you find yourself playing with your cock less and less while looking at porn but instead fingering your hole and playing with toys. For a great many of you, this truth only unlocked within yourself after moths of chastity or edging. While the realization came later on, the fact that you already suspected who you were and set out to learn more is hopefully something you can tackle early on in your sex life to have more fun.
I absolutely fucking encourage you to keep up with learning about what you like, and know that will evolve as you become more comfortable with yourself.
You're tapping into a very important part of who you are.
And you're understanding that for some men, their cock is a secondary sexual organ to their assholes and that the pleasure you get from your hole is far superior to anything your own cock can provide.
Explore that more. Accept it.
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